Taming your tongue will improve your relationships and your life #5


Taming your tongue will improve your relationships and your life #5.

Watch lest your negativity begins to

destroy your positivity.(Your tongue is a powerful tool)


#  The positive tongue.

We need to train our tongues – forming good habits so that what comes out of our mouths will be:

A blessing
Just “Ooze-positive”

Will it be like this 24/7? I’m sure you won’t but we need to train our tongues to be positive at least 80% of the time.


Proverbs 22:11 (Amp) – He who loves purity and the pure in heart and who is gracious in speech – because of the grace of his lips will he have the King for his friend.


We really need to tame our tongues in the area of our confession.


Matthew 12:34b (NIV) – … for out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.


The word of God conceived in the human spirit, formed by the tongue and spoken out of the mouth will become a creative power that will work for you.

Our tongues should always rise to the level of the Word of God.

As Christians we should be known as people who speak positively – speaking the Word of God into situations.


Story of the man that joined the monastery:

They were allowed to speak only 2 words every 7 years.

After the 1st 7 years, he met with Father Superior who asked him what his 2 words were.

“Food’s bad”, said the man.

After another 7 years, he was asked what are your 2 words?

“Bed’s hard”.

Another 7 years pass (21 years in the monastery) he was asked for his 2 words.

“I quit!”

Well, I’m not surprised”, said the disgusted Father Superior.  “All you’ve done since you got here is complain!”


The power of our words:

A careless word may ignite strife.
A cruel word may wreck a life.

A bitter word may he instil.
A brutal word may smile & kill.
A gracious word may smooth the way.
A joyous word may light the day.
A timely word may lessen stress.
A loving word may heal and bless.

Contrary to what we’ve heard: “Talk is not cheap”
Talk is very expensive.

Our words are powerful.

What we say affects what we get from others and what others get from us.


A list of POSITIVE ways to train your tongue each day – if you make these a habit in your life, you & others will see an awesome life change!

Share your faith
Express gratitude
Tell the truth
Admit a mistake
Confess your faults or weaknesses
Comfort someone who is hurting
Give a sincere compliment
Pledge your support and carry it through
Defend someone against negative criticism
Discourage gossip
Express appreciation
Express hope or enthusiasm
Encourage someone to persevere
Express concern for another
Speak of God’s goodness


A positive tongue is a sure sign of true spiritual growth and maturity.


James 3:2 (Amp) – For we all often stumble and fall and offend in many things. And if anyone does not offend in speech [never says the wrong things], he is a fully developed character and a perfect man, able to control his whole body and to curb his entire nature.


Our ultimate aim is:  1 Peter 2:21-22 (Amp) – 21For even to this were you called [it is inseparable from your vocation]. For Christ also suffered for you, leaving you [His personal] example, so that you should follow in His footsteps.   22He was guilty of no sin, neither was deceit (guile) ever found on His lips.

*Guile – Dishonest / Underhanded / Devious


Make a godly decision for your life to speak positively. Only you can do it.

Maybe you have held onto your weakness and failures because of having an untamed, negative tongue.


God’s message to you today:

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.


Ephesians 3:20 (Amp) – Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]


God wants you to trust Him.

His strength is just waiting for your positive confession.

You are what you say and the confession you make.


Revelation 12:11 (NIV) – They overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death.


“If we understood the power of our thoughts, we would guard them more closely. If we understood the awesome power of our words, we would prefer silence to almost anything negative. In our thoughts and words, we create our own weaknesses and our own strengths. Our limitations and joys begin in our hearts. We can always replace negative with positive.”   – Betty Eadie


My Never again list:

Never again will I confess  “I can’t,” for I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Phil.4: 13)
Never again will I confess lack, for my God shall supply all of my need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.(Phil.4:19)
Never again will I confess fear, for God hath not given me the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of  a sound mind. (2 Tim. 1:7)
Never again will I confess doubt and lack of faith, for God hath given to every man the measure of faith. (Rom 12:3)
Never again will I confess weakness, for the Lord is the strength of my life (Ps 27:1) and the people that know their God shall be strong and do exploits. (Dan 11:32)
Never again will I confess supremacy of Satan over my life, for greater is He that is within me than he that is in the world. (1 John 4:4)
Never again will I confess defeat, for thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ. (2 Cor 2:14)
Never again will I confess lack of wisdom for Christ Jesus has made unto me wisdom from God. (1 Cor 1:30)
Never again will I confess sickness, for with His stripes I am healed (Isa 53:5) and Jesus Himself took my infirmities and bore my sicknesses. (Math 8:17)
Never again will I confess worries and frustration, for I am casting all my cares upon Him who cares for me (1 Peter 5:7).  In Christ I am “carefree”.
Never again will I confess bondage, for where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty (2 Cor 3:17).  My body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Never again will I confess condemnation, for there is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus (Rom 8:1).  I am in Christ  :therefore, I am free from condemnation.


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